About the Boy

We bought a bed for his room a couple of weeks ago (3 weeks ago?) and he has been happy to sleep in his own room since. But he still insists on sleeping with me, and with me in recovery mode, I'm trying to avoid sleeping in aircon rooms so this arrangement works for me. 

He has also been sleeping through the night without peeing, yay! We've had accidents but thankfully put a waterproof sheet underneath so the mattress didn't get soiled. 

The boy is growing up! 

Recently he has been more affectionate, giving me kisses and hugs when I ask, compared to his younger days when he will turn his cheek when you ask him to kiss you (and you have to kiss him instead). He has also been picking flowers to give me which makes my heart melt.

He has been going for swim lessons every week unless he is sick, and you can see his progress from being afraid to jumping in the pool to enjoying to swim on his own while wearing the float. 

I'm trying not to be a tiger mom but I might be sending him for mandarin enrichment classes. This is more because we don't speak mandarin at home so I'm trying to give him more exposure. He will be going for a trial lesson next week so let's see how that goes. 

He enjoys watching titipo (the little train) and can watch the same 13 episodes over and over and over again. He also enjoys going to the Tayo station, an indoor playground at Downtown East in Pasir Ris. 

The TCM suggested I give him a massage before he sleeps, so that's part of our nightly routine as well. We have also been giving him huai shan (mountain yam) which is supposed to be good for the spleen, strengthening it so he can absorb food better. 

The boy has a cheeky sense of humour and loves to make us laugh. I'm sure he got his silliness from both sides, so is amplified in him. Haha 

Words cant describe how much I love the boy and +3 and this little family that we have together. I must have done something good. 

Three Months Since

Wow our Perth holiday was 3 months ago, how quickly time flies. I realise I didn't really finish writing about the trip and it's cos so many things happened during and after and I didn't really have the mood or energy to post something here. 

The Perth trip was full of ups and downs. We had a great time with family, as always. Celebrated mom's 70th in the day we arrived. Went to many parks and playgrounds, letting AC run and roll around in the grass and sand. We headed to a beach (Burns Beach, I think) near Uncle M and Aunty T's home and enjoyed a lovely stroll along the beach while waiting for the sun to set. 

There was also a trip to the hospital A&E, due to bleeding I had. Turns out I was having a miscarriage and I spent the rest of the week bedridden. I've said this before and I'll say it here again, if there was any place I could choose for such a devastating thing to happen, Perth would be it. I was surrounded by so much love and support, which made everything that little bit more bearable. 

Came back to SG, saw my gynae who gave me 3 weeks of hospital leave to rest. A week after he gives me the all-clear (I had bled everything and didn't need to do any procedure to clear out my womb), and the day after my appointment I started having high fevers. By the end of the week, I was still not getting better and feeling like death, I head to the doctor who suspects I have pneumonia. 

He gives me a referral letter and half a day later I'm admitted after x-ray scans confirm what he suspected. I spend 3 nights in the hospital before I would be discharged, and was given an additional week of hospital leave (total one month now). 

Since then, I've been seeing a TCM to help nurse myself back to health. He reckons my body was weak to begin with (low qi) and the body is smart and knows it cannot carry a pregnancy go full term so terminates it naturally.

The miscarriage then weakens my already weak body, which made me susceptible to viruses which would probably just give a normal-healthy person a running nose. Instead, I'm knocked out by the virus and hence the pneumonia - my body just can't fight it. 

2 months of TCM treatment later, I'm telling stronger. My cough has been on and off since but I do feel better. The TCM doctor says it is sometimes faster to be slower, which are his words of advise when I ask him about when I can start trying again. He says it is better to be patient and let my body build up it's strength, rather than rush into making another baby while my body isn't strong enough. 

Fair enough but sometimes it's hard to be patient. But patient I must be. 

I've also put my Masters studies on hold so I can finance my TCM treatments and focus on getting enough rest and not being too stressed. Will consider continuing it at a later time, and this gives me more time to save money for it as well. 

It all feels like a waiting game now, but good things come to those who wait, right?