Was on the train yesterday after my driving lesson, on my way to meet the girls to catch Dhamma Brothers at the cinema. I got on at Woodlands, plonked myself down on the seat and plugged in to my iPod.
A couple of stops later, someone gets on the train and sits directly opposite me. We make eye contact for the briefest moments and I realise that this was one of the Ex's uncles. My immediate reaction was to look away and pretend that I didn't see him, and to be busy texting on my phone. (Actually, I was busy texting on my phone. Lol.)
I felt bad though. Part of me wanted to go up and greet him, but I didn't want the hassle of having to make small talk. Plus, I couldn't remember the proper way to address him. (Uncle? Pak something?) So all I did was sit there, avoiding eye contact, frantically polling everyone via SMS on what I should do.
The question posed to the masses was: What do you do when you run into someone you don't want to on the train? And the common consensus was: Pretend to sleep.
In the end, I decided that I didn't have anything to lose by greeting him. After all, I had no reason to be afraid. My gripe was with the Ex, not his entire extended family. And I did travel together to Malaysia with him and some other in-laws before.
So I finally stood up, walked over to him, smiled, (waited for him to smile back), took his hand and salam-ed, and then got off the train as though I had arrived at my station. And I felt so glad that I did.